Anyone who knows me pretty well, knows my FOMO is as real as it gets. I might not even want to leave my house, but you best believe you better invite me, or my heart will break into a million pieces. For those of you who don’t know what FOMO is, this is an acronym for Fear Of Missing Out. I know a lot of the people in my life will talk about this in the sense of being invited to that party or included in a conversation. However for me, I feel like it involves so much more. Whether its going to McDonalds at 12 am, being in on a inside joke, or a spur of the moment trip to Georgia. I can not deal with the thought of missing out on things. I will put myself through so much spending and stress, just to ensure I do not regret not attending something, and I really have to believe I’m not the only one who deals with this.
I think a lot of us can relate to the feeling of being left out or feeling like you’re missing out on something. I know if I spend a whole day sitting at home, I feel pretty anxious about it. Not because I do not thoroughly enjoy being by myself and doing nothing, but because I get worried that I missed my chance to do something and all I see on social media is people constantly living their best life everyday. You know how they say, “You die twice. The first time, when you breath your last breath, and the second time, when someone says your name for the last time.” Well I think I am perpetually terrified that I could die that second time before my first time. I feel like if I am not included in every event that is happening, everyone will forget about me and I will become as irrelevant as the Mannequin Challenge.
As I become more and more of an adult, I have started to realize how exhausting and impossible it is to keep up with being part of everything you can. It is good to catch up with the people you love, and make the most of your life while your still young, but there comes a point where you need to evaluate if the things you’re attending or spending your time on, are actually giving you joy. I also think having FOMO stems from some sort of self confidence issue. I struggle with hoping that I am fun and that people want to be around me. I get worried that if I’m not on their mind to invite somewhere, that means they rather not spend time with me, or that they are forgetting about me. The reality is, everyone is too consumed with themselves and their own issues, they can not possibly be thinking about everyone’s feelings on such a minute scale.
Even though I can rationally compartmentalize this issue, it still sneaks up and bothers me when I’m not consciously thinking about. I think the best way anyone can handle their FOMO is to just be honest about it whenever you’re feeling it. Talk about it with your friends and the people around you, and you might be surprised how not alone you are with your feelings. I think once you realize this is something almost everyone is dealing with, it will slowly stop being an issue for you, because at least you wont have FOMO about FOMO.