Here is my definition of the mainstream #relationshipgoals, and if you’ve spent anytime on social media or watched any TV recently, these won’t seem too foreign to you. Hot and fit, extremely photogenic, always touching and kissing in public, and just a couple you can’t help but be extremely jealous of. They take these effortless photos making them seem so in love and so happy. If you’re ever out in public you’re sure to see girls bugging their boyfriends or husbands to retake a photo, over and over, to get the perfect one. Even with all this effort from so many couples, there are still only a select few that are super hot, and honestly probably super rich, that receive all the attention and jealousy. Even though it is only a select few, sometimes it feels like the whole world except me.
If you know me at all, you know that I have been with my husband almost immediately after I graduated from diapers. Okay to be more exact, I’ve been with him since I was 15. Since we have been together so long, we are definitely not in the honeymoon stage, and I don’t think a lot of people say “OMG they are the cutest couple,” anymore. Because we’re not, were old and gross, and the mystery and newness of our relationship is long gone. This might sound sad, but it’s really not. Every couple has to come to this point eventually. You cannot be with someone for your entire life and still not fart, burp, and be completely annoying to the other person, unless you have some serious issues. Also, our days of trying really hard to take cute pictures are over. We have spent years forcing different poses and situations and looking like a cute, in-love couple, so we’re kind of over it. Although most of the time I don’t even think about these things, if I ever hang around a new couple, or spend far too much time creepin’ on social media, I start to get entirely too jealous. And because I do not think I am that unique of a person, I imagine this happens to a lot of people too.
Obviously these problems are completely superficial and solely driven by social media, but just because they are dumb doesn’t mean we need a little reminder that “hey this is dumb.” We know that social media is the absolute best of everyone’s lives, and that most people post things that they believe will help enforce the imagine they want to be portrayed in. Even though we all know this, sometimes it’s hard to deal with because, hey I would be totally okay with portraying myself in that image, but I can’t because I’m not that hot or rich. It’s so important though to remember that these #relationshipgoals couples might have so many other issues that are actually a pretty big deal.
I know my relationship might not be new, exciting, or hot, but it is a lot of things that people might have to search for their whole lives. I don’t EVER worry that my husband is cheating on me in anyway. I am never embarrassed. My husband never makes me feel insecure or nervous about myself. I am never unsure about my future. If I ever want something, I don’t have to think of a strategic way to get it from him. I am never alone. I can literally tell him anything on my mind. I constantly have help with the most mundane things. I have someone who can store all my memories for me. I have someone who understands me in the way I want to be understood. And most importantly, I have never questioned if I am loved.
These things should be my, and everyone’s, #relationshipgoals. In a world of Kardashians, sometimes It’s hard to remember what’s really important and what really lasts. Sometimes you need to spend time writing out everything wonderful you have to realize you’re a whiny ungrateful b**** and need to chill the heck out. Honestly, this article is mostly a little reality check for me. So put the phone down, stop putting your focus on things that don’t last, and either appreciate the person you have, or find someone who can give you these real, lasting #realtionshipgoals.